Saturday, March 24, 2012
Anger
When I gave some thought to how I express my anger I've decided tend follow the characteristics of anger-ins. For the most part I don't openly express my anger to the person that has upset me. Although, there are times when I feel so strongly about something that I deal with the situation as it is occurring. In those instances I would categorize my actions using anger control. More often than not I choose not to deal with the conflict directly. Not that I think this a healthy way of dealing with problems, but sometimes I just give it time to heal itself. One of the common features of an anger-in is that they may be passive-aggressive. I definitely do not see myself as passive-aggressive. I just sometimes feel like certain conflicts are not worth the fight. But if something is really important to me or I feel strongly toward it I will address the issue by using assertive communication behaviors. I would like work on my anger communication style and deal with conflict as an anger controller more often.
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We are almost the same on how we manage our anger. I don’t necessarily get angry right away and blow up, but I do solve my conflicts calmly. I don’t like to openly express my anger because I don’t want to make the situation even worse than it already is. My problem is that when I shut down and stop talking, I can’t find a way to bring myself back up until a later time. I do not see myself ever being aggressive unless someone deliberately did something to hurt myself and or a close friend/relative.
ReplyDeleteI think that the way you deal with anger is great! I like how you give the conflict some time so that you are able to cool down and then you readdress the issue. When I first read about anger-ins, the book did describe that usually the person would be passive- aggressive. I agree with you that this might not always be the case. I would definitely like to pick up some of the techniques you use to deal with anger. I usually have anger more towards my family because I am so comfortable with them. Although, being comfortable with your family is a good thing, it can have its flaws. I am so comfortable with my family that when I get angry, I tend to blow up. It is not something I am proud of but, it is definitely something I am working on.
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