One of the concepts that are discussed in chapter 3 that I found important in communication considerations is the difference between compromising and collaborating approaches. After reading the chapter it is easier to see why collaboration is the preferred approach. With the same goal in mind, collaboration leads to win-win situations. Compromising, on the other hand ends with neither person in the party completely winning or losing. As I have mentioned in previous blogs this week I am generally a nonassertive communicator. However, since getting engaged and planning the wedding my fiancé and I have been using the collaboration approach in making decisions about our venue and other details. The ultimate goal is for both us to be completely satisfied with outcome of our big day. I wouldn’t want him to feel like his thoughts and ideas about when and where we get married aren’t as important as mine. Luckily, he gives me the same respect in return.
I also chose this concept. I found it very interesting because it does make sense to use the collaboration method so everyone can be happy, but compromising sometimes is just easier. I am the opposite of you, and am an assertive communicator. It does have its pros and cons but at times it can get hard to hold myself back from being too assertive. It’s great that you have a partner who understands you and that you both respect each others’ thoughts and ideas. Planning a wedding is extremely difficult, but with patience everything can get done. Good luck with the planning and of course the big day! Hope everything goes well for both of you. =)
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